When Friends Disappoint Us (Part 1)
It seems to be a recurring theme among a lot of women I've spoken to recently: their friends have let them down in some way, and they're reeling from the disappointment & hurt.
I get it. I really do. My (former) best friend no longer has anything to do with me. I've lost friends over pregnancy, quarantine, church differences, you name it. Been there, done that, felt the sadness, got the t-shirt. And now I'm here to encourage YOU.
The first part of this blog series is going to show you that you're not alone. (Well, I guess I've already done that, ha!) But no, seriously, I'm going to hit you with the most poignant example that comes to mind from the Bible: the time that Jesus' friends disappointed Him in His greatest hour of need.
Perhaps someone is thinking, "But... but... it's JESUS. How could anyone who was considered by Jesus to be His friend on this earth, someone who had SEEN His awesomeness in person, not have been a good friend to Him?!" I know. It's hard to wrap our minds around it, but it happened!
Jesus went to Gethsemane with His friends. He was deeply distressed because He knew He was about to be arrested and crucified. So He asked His friends to sit there and wait for Him while He prayed. "And He said to them, 'My soul is deeply grieved to the point of death; remain here and keep watch'" (Mark 14:34). But you know what? When He came back to see them, they had all fallen asleep. So Jesus woke up Peter and asked him again to watch and pray (and stay awake!) while Jesus went off to pray some more. And you know what? Jesus came back to find everyone asleep yet again! And then it happened a THIRD time!
Not only that, but when the crowd came to arrest Jesus, His friends ran off and deserted Him! Talk about extreme disappointment. Three times Jesus had been counting on His friends for moral support as He prayed, and three times His friends let him down. And then, in His darkest hour, when He knew He was about to face an agonizing death, they left Him alone completely.
What have our friends done to disappoint us? How often has this happened to us? Does it pale in comparison to what our Lord faced?
We are not alone in our disappointments. (Hebrews 4:15) And if the most perfect person who ever walked the face of the earth was let down by His friends (in His darkest hour of need, no less), then how can we possibly expect to have it any better?
In the next part of this series, we'll discuss what we should do when our friends disappoint us. (Spoiler alert: it doesn't involve blasting them on social media.)
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